Gaslighting: The Ultimate Narcissistic Mind Control - J.B. Snow

Gaslighting: The Ultimate Narcissistic Mind Control

By J.B. Snow

  • Release Date: 2016-03-20
  • Genre: Family & Relationships
Score: 4
From 170 Ratings


You try to commiserate with your friends and family, but they seem to shun you lately. Your friends don’t know what you are talking about when you complain about your unhealthy relationship. They think that your partner is a perfect angel. Your family is confused about your erratic behaviors. Everyone thinks that you have gone stark-raving mad. You try to get your wits about you, but your partner is always there to tell you that you are worthless, clingy, emotional, needy, and crazy.
Maybe his parents and his other family members are supportive of him. They don’t seem to like you. His charm has won over everyone else. You wonder if you are the one who is the problem. After all, why can’t everyone else see that your partner is causing the decline in your mental health? Why don’t they empathize with your emotional pain?
You don’t feel like yourself anymore. You feel like a shell of your former self. You were so much vibrant and live-loving before you met the narcissist in your life. You love him, but you recognize that he is tearing you down at the same time. You wonder why your relationship isn’t supportive, loving and filled with personal growth.
The problem is this: you can’t tell which one of you is crazy. At first, you were certain it was him. But lately, you wonder if your own sense of sanity is declining. You feel emotional, exhausted, depressed, frazzled, stressed and confused. You think that you might even suffer a nervous breakdown any second now. Not even the counselors believe the suffering that you are experiencing. Most people have no idea what you are going through.
If you are feeling this way, my friend, there is a simple explanation. You may be dating or married to a narcissist. Your self-absorbed partner may be gas-lighting and manipulating you. He may cycle between love-bombing and distancing himself from you. He seems to be a nice guy to your face sometimes, but then you find out that he is talking bad about you to others. He seems to triangulate you with other women or family members in order to make you jealous and boost his own ego.
Does he talk you in circles when you confront him about his whereabouts when he is running late? Does he tell you that you are being ‘too clingy’, ‘too emotional’, and ‘too needy’ when you say that you want to spend time together? Does he get defensive when you want to move the relationship forward in any way? Does he balk at anything resembling maturity and commitment?
Does he isolate you from friends and family so that he has the opportunity to win everyone over to his side? Does he stop you from having any independence because he is afraid that you will leave him if you had some moral support? Is his self-esteem wavering to the point where he thinks that you might get smart if you talk to others? Does he fear you ‘figuring out’ what he is up to, especially if other people validate it to you?

If most of these apply to you, you are a victim of gaslighting.
Download now to read how you can fight against gaslighting, and why gaslighting is so dangerous.


  • Wonderful read

    By JasmineQuash
    Lovely and scary to say she described lots of unfavorable qualities I possess
  • Short and to the point :)

    By psychologicallane
    I think the book is exactly what I was looking for. I’ve been researching this subject without any real success. I can find plenty on the subject but the author/speaker seems to talk around gaslighting without a real explanation of what it is and how to spot it in real world ways. This book is spot on with its information and doesn’t take hours to get to the point. Thanks!! I’ll definitely read more from this author.
  • amazing

    By bridgetalexis7777
  • Gaslighting

    By Jikyo39
    Uses psychiatric terminology without explaining it. As a result, book is both oversimplified and overtechnical.
  • Didn't give 5 stars because

    By webster jr
    The book is extremely accurate and informative. It is very easy for anyone to understand. Unfortunately, the book is only coming from the narcissistic male abuser perspective. If the book was written from a female abuser and a male abuser perspective than it would have received 5 stars. There are many men who are victims of a narcissist. However, woman are more likely to get formal help and men will go without formal help. Thereby, many abused men are not recorded and therefore it appears that there are more male narcissistic abusers than female narcissistic abusers. Most of us men are satisfied and happy with getting the "crazy woman" out of our lives so that we can move forward and get on with our lives. Once again, this book is a great source of information and education on narcissistic abuse.