Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing - Matthew Perry

Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing

By Matthew Perry

  • Release Date: 2022-11-01
  • Genre: Biographies & Memoirs
Score: 4.5
From 2,415 Ratings



The BELOVED STAR OF FRIENDS takes us behind the scenes of the hit sitcom and his struggles with addiction in this “CANDID, DARKLY FUNNY...POIGNANT” memoir (The New York Times)

A MOST ANTICIPATED BOOK by Time, Associated Press, Goodreads, USA Today, and more!

“Hi, my name is Matthew, although you may know me by another name. My friends call me Matty. And I should be dead.”

So begins the riveting story of acclaimed actor Matthew Perry, taking us along on his journey from childhood ambition to fame to addiction and recovery in the aftermath of a life-threatening health scare. Before the frequent hospital visits and stints in rehab, there was five-year-old Matthew, who traveled from Montreal to Los Angeles, shuffling between his separated parents; fourteen-year-old Matthew, who was a nationally ranked tennis star in Canada; twenty-four-year-old Matthew, who nabbed a coveted role as a lead cast member on the talked-about pilot then called Friends Like Us. . . and so much more.

In an extraordinary story that only he could tell—and in the heartfelt, hilarious, and warmly familiar way only he could tell it—Matthew Perry lays bare the fractured family that raised him (and also left him to his own devices), the desire for recognition that drove him to fame, and the void inside him that could not be filled even by his greatest dreams coming true. But he also details the peace he’s found in sobriety and how he feels about the ubiquity of Friends, sharing stories about his castmates and other stars he met along the way. Frank, self-aware, and with his trademark humor, Perry vividly depicts his lifelong battle with addiction and what fueled it despite seemingly having it all.

Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing is an unforgettable memoir that is both intimate and eye-opening—as well as a hand extended to anyone struggling with sobriety. Unflinchingly honest, moving, and uproariously funny, this is the book fans have been waiting for.


  • Love that book

    By assfccdr
    Liked everything about the book, never realized what Perry went through, also definitely felt like he was telling the story first hand as if chandler was telling the story. Good read!
  • What a life, what a struggle

    By LMKMoor
    So honest!
  • “The great read”

    By pigpen702
    Grateful to hear this story of war and peace. Everybody has been touched by the family disease just wake up.
  • Heartbreaking

    By teledoc caller
    Broke my heart.
  • The big terrible thing…Addiction

    By Lattesmith
    Matthew Perry put into words what being an addict really feels like. The disease that takes everything away from you… spiritually physically emotionally… He illustrated the worse part of addiction for me… the obsession! OhMyGod Matthew suffered and fought the many faucets of addiction relentlessly! He gave us a book that describes the battle with the depths of true evil. I recommend reading this book to anyone who has ever experienced the various forms of addiction…And to all of us who loved Chandler Bing.
  • Beautiful

    By lmgoodman79
    Excellent, heartbreaking and incredibly well written.
  • Honest and heartbreaking

    By DDarby0422
    I listened to Matthew read this book and it was captivating. I never knew what a hard life he lead with addiction. I don’t know how he managed to be so successful but he truly was a talented actor. He laid all his dirty laundry out and that had to be difficult. What a great testimony he left and tribute to all the people he loved. He mentions so many at the end and how thankful and how he loved them all. A special keepsake book. RIP Matthew
  • Amazing… more than that

    By Kbliki
    So full of meaningful messages and life lessons. Amazing life he lived in every way and overcame with such resilience, gracefully and gratefully. Beyond words to express how much every single human MUST read this book to understand at least one person we know and because we all need it to be better humans. Thank you for writing it and leaving it to us to be.
  • Great book

    By sofiathefirst26371
    Very sad story but it seemed like he kept writing the same thing the whole book
  • Not sure why it has so many 5 star reviews

    By J. J. Dosson
    He basically tells a story about how narcissistic he is, how his a womanizer, how he holds no accountability for his actions. Then there is the repeated drug and alcohol abuse, then going to rehab to get clean just to repeat the cycle over and over again all throughout his life. All the while blaming everyone for his problems, even God. I feel like this book was written because he wanted sympathy, but for what? Because he had two loving parents, a great career, the most beautiful, successful, intelligent woman who loved him, money, fame and a God who saved many times from death? Sorry to say but this book was a big let down. It was also hard to read because it was all over the place.