Marry Him - Lori Gottlieb

Marry Him

By Lori Gottlieb

  • Release Date: 2010-02-04
  • Genre: Family & Relationships
Score: 4
From 178 Ratings


An eye-opening, funny, painful, and always truthful in-depth examination of modern relationships and a wake-up call for single women about getting real about Mr. Right.

You have a fulfilling job, great friends, and the perfect apartment. So what if you haven’t found “The One” just yet. He’ll come along someday, right?
But what if he doesn’t?  Or what if Mr. Right had been, well, Mr. Right in Front of You—but you passed him by? Nearing forty and still single, journalist Lori Gottlieb started to wonder: What makes for lasting romantic fulfillment, and are we looking for those qualities when we’re dating? Are we too picky about trivial things that don’t matter, and not picky enough about the often overlooked things that do?
In Marry Him, Gottlieb explores an all-too-common dilemma—how to reconcile the desire for a happy marriage with a list of must-haves and deal-breakers so long and complicated that many great guys get misguidedly eliminated. On a quest to find the answer, Gottlieb sets out on her own journey in search of love, discovering wisdom and surprising insights from sociologists and neurobiologists, marital researchers and behavioral economists—as well as single and married men and women of all generations.


  • Lovely

    By ndambi
    I stumbled upon this book via FB ad and I couldn’t put it down! I shared it to all of my girlfriends who are now in their late 20s! They need this NOW!!! Before it’s too late, thank you for sharing this book with the world! I’m a gay man so it’s a little different for me but I GET IT. Thank you
  • Read this book

    By Leee-uhhhhh
    I was having doubts in my first year of marriage, wondering if I had made the right decision — this book whipped me back to reality — yes, I had chosen the things that were most important, thankfully. This is an important book to read not only because if you’re single and are looking for a partner, but also if you’re in a relationship/married and are questioning if you should stick it out. Great read.
  • Good book!

    By butterflyd21
    This book is amazing from start to finish. It was very insightful and very helpful for me. This is one of the best books I’ve read in a really long time. I had a hard time putting it down. The research, the interviews, the personal accounts, the content all really good and consistent. The title of the book is controversial and maybe discouraging to some, but the content is realistic and practical. I recommend this books to women and men in their early 20s and up that want fulfilling long term relationships. It’s a guide to “getting of your high horse and into good long lasting relationships” to some it up.
  • A must read for all single women!

    By Hgffss
    I think the author, Lori Gottlieb, puts dating and marriage into perspective, that we can’t have-it-all in the person we marry. there is no person out there that will check off everything on your list, and that compromise is a must! Those women that are considered to “settle” didn’t settle. They have what they wanted, while we are still looking for Mr. Perfect. She writes very well, and it is fun to read. I think this is great for those that are trying to find out why they are not married yet, and need some realistic insight.
  • Heart pounding experiences 😧

    By MS....munckin
    Being a woman, having a similar situation, as this story.... sometimes a woman has to be sure of herself, also! This book is straight to the way things should be in real life, but maybe there is more than just her decision! Wouldn’t life be a piece of cake if it was written by someone else, with the happily ever after..... but wait there’s needs to be some suspense, romance and hot sweaty love making, I know from a woman of my own heart, there will be a awesome ending, or should I say a new exciting beginning❤️ Smurfetts Always 🙏🏼 For A Good Ending in Her Villlage ( the village of hope)
  • So happy I read this!

    By DeeP3445
    When I read Lori's article in the Atlantic, I was shocked, saddened, and a little angry. Fortunately, it left me hungry for more. I wanted to read the entire story before deciding exactly how I felt about her theories, learnings, and advice. Now, it all makes absolute sense and I completely agree with her. This book is not about settling at all! It's not offensive or even scary which was the impression the article gave me. It's simply a reality check for us 20 and 30 year old women. I saw myself in so many of the anecdotes and I feel enlightened!
  • Eye opening

    By Stayace919
    A great book to make you really open your eyes to how you should be dating. Really made a lot of sense and I am so glad I took the time to read this book.
  • Matter of fact

    By gadgeek
    It is indeed a down to earth, wake me up from my slumber , matter of fact kind of book. I am single and certainly disagreed with the writer initially but Lori is spot on. It's almost as if we have had lunch together and discussed our dating life. Sooooo many mistakes, unrealistic expectations etc etc. having said that you can still be single and happy.
  • Five Stars!

    By Allnicknamestakenalready
    Hands down the best book on dating and relationships I've ever read. I'm 55 now and would give anything if I'd had this book when I was 25. I've made a lot of bad choices. Young women - listen to Lori!
  • repetitive

    By Iamme32
    This book can be summed up in few sentences, if not, a paragraph. First few pages to the first chapter says it all. Read the sample, it's good enough. There's really nothing more to it.