The High-Conflict Couple - Alan E. Fruzzetti & Marsha M. Linehan

The High-Conflict Couple

By Alan E. Fruzzetti & Marsha M. Linehan

  • Release Date: 2006-12-03
  • Genre: Family & Relationships
Score: 4
From 31 Ratings


You hear and read a lot about ways to improve your relationship. But if you've tried these without much success, you're not alone. Many highly reactive couples-pairs that are quick to argue, anger, and blame-need more than just the run-of-the-mill relationship advice to solve their problems in love. When destructive emotions are at the heart of problems in your relationship, no amount of effective communication or intimacy building will fix what ails it. If you're part of a 'high-conflict' couple, you need to get control of your emotions first, to stop making things worse, and only then work on building a better relationship.

The High-Conflict Couple adapts the powerful techniques of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) into skills you can use to tame out-of-control emotions that flare up in your relationship. Using mindfulness and distress tolerance techniques, you'll learn how to deescalate angry situations before they have a chance to explode into destructive fights. Other approaches will help you disclose your fears, longings, and other vulnerabilities to your partner and validate his or her experiences in return. You'll discover ways to manage problems with negotiation, not conflict, and to find true acceptance and closeness with the person you love the most.


  • Most incredible resource!

    By Alyssa Rogge
    Well written, completely free of shame and judgement(exactly what a borderline personality needs). I’ve bookmarked all of the practice sections to refer back to in the future. I’m very impressed with the knowledge in this book. My brain grew 2 sizes. Now, I’m off to love on my spouse.