Modern Romance - Aziz Ansari & Eric Klinenberg

Modern Romance

By Aziz Ansari & Eric Klinenberg

  • Release Date: 2015-06-16
  • Genre: Humor
Score: 4.5
From 780 Ratings


The #1 New York Times Bestseller

“An engaging look at the often head-scratching, frequently infuriating mating behaviors that shape our love lives.” —Refinery 29

A hilarious, thoughtful, and in-depth exploration of the pleasures and perils of modern romance from Aziz Ansari, the star of Master of None and one of this generation’s sharpest comedic voices

At some point, every one of us embarks on a journey to find love. We meet people, date, get into and out of relationships, all with the hope of finding someone with whom we share a deep connection. This seems standard now, but it’s wildly different from what people did even just decades ago. Single people today have more romantic options than at any point in human history. With technology, our abilities to connect with and sort through these options are staggering. So why are so many people frustrated?

Some of our problems are unique to our time. “Why did this guy just text me an emoji of a pizza?” “Should I go out with this girl even though she listed Combos as one of her favorite snack foods? Combos?!” “My girlfriend just got a message from some dude named Nathan. Who’s Nathan? Did he just send her a photo of his penis? Should I check just to be sure?” 

But the transformation of our romantic lives can’t be explained by technology alone. In a short period of time, the whole culture of finding love has changed dramatically. A few decades ago, people would find a decent person who lived in their neighborhood. Their families would meet and, after deciding neither party seemed like a murderer, they would get married and soon have a kid, all by the time they were twenty-four. Today, people marry later than ever and spend years of their lives on a quest to find the perfect person, a soul mate.

For years, Aziz Ansari has been aiming his comic insight at modern romance, but for Modern Romance, the book, he decided he needed to take things to another level. He teamed up with NYU sociologist Eric Klinenberg and designed a massive research project, including hundreds of interviews and focus groups conducted everywhere from Tokyo to Buenos Aires to Wichita. They analyzed behavioral data and surveys and created their own online research forum on Reddit, which drew thousands of messages. They enlisted the world’s leading social scientists, including Andrew Cherlin, Eli Finkel, Helen Fisher, Sheena Iyengar, Barry Schwartz, Sherry Turkle, and Robb Willer. The result is unlike any social science or humor book we’ve seen before.

In Modern Romance, Ansari combines his irreverent humor with cutting-edge social science to give us an unforgettable tour of our new romantic world.


  • Modern Romance

    By PookieOne
    Very funny and informative
  • A Modern (APP)lication to Dating

    By Crashleyy21
    This was a great book! I thought Modern Romance was super interesting, and I enjoyed the deep dive into the social aspects of current dating, backed by science. Anzi presented the statistics and facts of modern dating with comedic appeal, which made the book easy to read. Loved it. I especially enjoyed it as a young women navigating through online and App dating.
  • He should do an audio version

    By Giarca
    Definitely. And he’s someone that you should absolutely take dating/romance tips from.
  • Aziz Ansaris emotional IQ is 0

    By Sree De P
    Might as well be a sleazy pickup artist book. Interesting statistics that are leveraged to belittle women - This should have been expected from the man who talks about how great RKelly is..
  • Love it

    By Loveyouchristina!
    And I knew I would. Aziz is one of the more smarter comedians in this day and age so I knew that any book written by him would not only be super funny but educational too. I learned and laughed a lot from this book and I'm sure anyone who picks it up will too.
  • Modern Romance

    By Steinman12
    This book is fantastic. A comedian takes a sociological perspective on today's dating scene and it could not be any more interesting. Aziz did an incredible amount of research for this project and it shows. For me, a lot of this book was very relatable and it helped me realize that I'm not the only person out there feeling and experiencing the same things. This book made me change the way I approach life and that's what a good book is supposed to do.
  • Interesting and Funny

    By Eeeeyaaaaahhh
    Loved it!

    By yg_0708
    I have not finished reading the book, but so far it's hilarious. I can literally imagine, and hear Aziz saying all his remarks in this book. This book was not meant to give you advice in how to get a date, but to state the obvious and make fun of it. If you like Aziz then you will enjoy this book. Highly recommend.
  • Excellent depiction of romance today.

    By Er678
    Ansari injects comedy into the complicated world of dating and young adulthood. Guaranteed to make you laugh at yourself and his hilarious pop culture references.
  • Funny and Insightful

    By Ya Boy James
    Hilarious and all too truthful look at the crazy world of modern dating. Home run for Aziz.